Ask Mina
Mina Ha answers the family questions that come with senior care.
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Ask Mina: My brother says Mom is fine. I'm the one who sees her every day.
He visits twice a year and she rallies for him. The other fifty weeks look different, and he doesn't believe me.
October 12, 2026 · Family conflictAsk Mina: Dad agreed to tour, then cancelled three times
Each time he has a reason. I am starting to think the reason is me.
October 12, 2026 · Starting the talkAsk Mina: I promised I would never move her out of her house
I made that promise fifteen years ago, when neither of us knew what keeping it would take.
October 12, 2026 · GuiltAsk Mina: She asks to go home every time I visit
I leave feeling like I abandoned her. Should I visit less, or more?
October 12, 2026 · After the move